Want less, have more

It’s either wanting or receiving. The less I want, the more I have. What do I want more of anyway? The feeling or the thing that will, hopefully, produce the feeling?

I want:

more simplicity

more calmness

more presence (presents)

more freedom

more power

more fulfilment

more joy

more love

more often…

 

 

 

 

Anticrastination: the art of constructive non-doing

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If procrastination is “the action of delaying or postponing something” as defined by the Oxford dictionary, then anticrastination is the art of prioritising non-doing as the most wholesome and worthwhile by-pass-time.

Procrastination feels bad, it is putting off the necessary and urgent in favour of that which provides instant, short-term gratification. Anticrastination on the other hand feels good. It is a deliberate choice to de-clutter the mind and purify its incessant urge to express and make happen.

The mind’s normal mode is like a nonstop TV ad segment that flashes random images in relentless succession and takes you for a ride. What you want is to switch to documentary mode where you can observe the natural flow of life at a pace that allows for the appreciation and true savouring of all that is worthy of being truly enjoyed.

The idea for this very post that shook me out of my pleasant, morning bout of anticrastination came from a friend who posted the following on facebook;

To all who procrastinate: “We must be diligent today. To wait until tomorrow is too late. Death comes unexpectedly. How can we bargain with it?” –The Buddha

For more on this topic, check out the work of Leo Babauta, the master of procrastination remedies. zenhabits.net/procrastination/

Now, back to anticrastination….

The discomfort zone

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If you can get comfortable with the discomfort zone, the place of rapid growth, then you have in large part won life my friend. Anything that you can conceive of in the way of achievement, of becoming, must and does inevitably involve the process of constantly pushing through what were previously boundaries and establishing new and newer comfort zones.

Befriend the discomfort zone.

What do you do when all your Christmases come at once and are here to stay?

This is a serious question.

How do you or would you handle a situation (call it what you will) where suddenly you find yourself in a position where everything in your existence has fallen into place in an unshakeable, irreversible kind of way? What to do, if anything?

How would you be if you conquered this life (your self) to the point where no more could possibly be added to your state of utter love, bliss & fulfilment & no thing could be taken away?

What would remain? What would be left to do?

 

 

Freedom from the “what next” compulsion

Being free from the obsession of “what next” isn’t so much a thing that you consciously go out to achieve but rather something you notice, like a persistent itch that suddenly stops. And what a relief it is to be focused in the present moment, not for the moment, but abiding there (here, now) permanently.

Voluntary serfdom; doing something other than what you’d most love to be doing

I often wonder about the percentage of people who can honestly say they are doing what they’d most love to be doing in life. I suspect it isn’t many, probably in the decimal points.

If you think you need this (money) to have that (ideal lifestyle), then what you really want is that and not this?!

I’ve just returned home from intense and inspiring London. I try to make it over there about once a year to visit family and I love the place. For a few days at a time that is. The intensity and contrast to how I normally live is astounding and because of this I can enjoy it to the fullest. Over the years I have identified a part of the capital’s population that I call wealthy serfs. These are people who spend the majority of their lives doing something other than what they’d most like to be doing and what keeps them in this condition is compensation. They are rewarded or compensated in a variety of ways, all of which are illusory in nature meaning that they have no substance and don’t deliver real happiness. The theory they hold onto is that one day they will buy themselves out of this lifestyle, retire early and then, finally, do what they really want to do. Of course this rarely happens mostly because of two things;

1. They get so caught up in the numerous forms of compensation, the comforts and luxuries, that they begin to mistake these for “the” real thing.

2. Over time they lose sight of the original vision. The calling of the heart has been thwarted and neglected until it is practically silenced.

The donkey chasing the carrot analogy comes to mind only I would add to it that in this case, the carrot just keeps on getting bigger and shinier but never actually closer.

This phenomenon is unanimously confirmed by the serfs themselves. My own brother, his friends and colleagues who work for some of the biggest financial institutions in the world, regrettably but without hesitation agree. In making this observation, I don’t mean to judge or hope to correct anyone. In fact, I am quite fascinated by and admire the accomplishments of these people but I cannot help to notice a vital component missing in them.

They lack inner peace and stillness. There is an absence of contentment, fulfilment and a general sense of satisfaction. They, like many of us in fact, do not realise that to acquire and enjoy more of the truly valuable and worthwhile things in life it is subtraction rather than addition that is needed. Removing the self created obstacles that prevent us from living in the fullness of each and every moment is actually far more important than trying to add, in whatever form, anything that we imagine ourselves to be lacking.

Life is far too valuable to spend it doing anything less than what you’d most like to be doing and when one awakens to this realisation a change becomes imminent. The good news is that a change of this magnitude from self-imposed bondage to complete freedom happens in an instant and does not come as the end result of a long and tedious process. When correctly grasped and taken full advantage of, the years of neglecting ones own highest ideals can act as the driving mechanism, providing the energy that ultimately compels one to make this most worthwhile step and finally live into the version of life and being that the true self has yearned for all along.

At the end of the day it is nothing but a choice.

Pretend You’re Who You Want to Be

(a great article from 2007 By Leo Babauta, zenthabits.net)

To be happy, it is important that we become happy with who we are — accept ourselves, recognize our good traits, accept our flaws, and come to see those flaws as actually good and unique parts of us.

But if you’re like me, there’s always something we want to change — and in keeping with the philosophy of this site, for me that’s changing my daily habits to help me reach my goals. The problem is, many people just don’t believe they are the type of person who can achieve that goal — they have a negative self-image, and that negativity will stop them from success every time. Positive thinking is the key to any kind of achievement.

So today’s quick happiness tip is simple: think about the goal you want to achieve, imagine the kind of person who has already achieved that goal or created that habit, and pretend you are that person.

Let’s take a quick example: If I want to start running, to make running a daily habit, I think about runners I know or have read about. I read about their habits, their lifestyle, and imagine what it’s like to be them. Then, I pretend I’m a runner myself. I think about what it’s like to be a runner, how a runner would act, how a runner thinks and feels, what a runner’s habits are.

I take the identity of a runner, and make it my own. Soon, I believe I’m a runner. And here’s the magic: it becomes true! Just by pretending it, and assuming that identity, I become a runner. I think and act like one. And if I’m a runner, what do I do every day? I run.

This magical trick can work for any goal, and for any person. Imagine that you are that person, and you will be.